Do you think that your relationship lacks romanticism and…sex? Maybe your wife doesn’t desire you as much anymore and she doesn’t want to make love? Or maybe, you just don’t know what to do? Whatever the reason may be, we can help you make your wife horny for you again.
Thus, the following advice will help you get there, to make your wife horny and most importantly, improve your relationship.
If your daily life has become dull, breaking out the routine is key. For instance, to hint a possible change, you will need to act.
Consequently, by changing a few key things, you will improve your success with your wife.
Firstly, it all starts with appearance – whether we want it or not. By taking care of your appearance (both outside and inside), you will become more attractive. (1)
So, start by improving your style (ditch the jogging, t-shirt and your old pair of jeans). Instead, get out a pair of classy trousers (in cotton or linen for a more laid-back style or… if it’s hot) and a nice shirt (in doubt, choose a solid colour). Moreover, avoid bright colours and opt for a pair of trousers that matches your shirt (if you need more advice, google it).
Also, should you need it, go to the hairdresser and/or barber to clean up your face. Don’t forget, that’s not only for your wife, that’s also for you!
Last but not least, perfume is incredibly important. Indeed, a nice subtle smell can have an incredible power of attraction. However, it has to be subtle. Therefore, forget spraying half a can of deodorant. Instead, go for a perfume or eau de toilette with a nice woody or musky smell (1 or 2 sprays are more than enough).
Appearance is one thing but behaviour is has important, if not more.
If your wife is used to a calm and composed you, try being a bit more out there. Otherwise, be a bit more reserved and cool.
By changing (a bit) your interactions, you will surprise your wife and you may be able to put a bit of spice in your relationship.
As a matter of fact, what’s most important is to be yourself – basically, let your hidden parts shine through a bit more. This is not about role play.
If there’s something most women need from a man, is sensuality. Indeed, physical touch, caresses, tenderness and sweet kisses are essential to maintain a women’s interest.
For instance, if you tend to go all in without any foreplay, usually it won’t be pleasurable for your other half. So, instead, take your time and share some sensuality…together.
You can start by caressing and kissing her neck. Then, slightly bite her ear (playfully) and explore the rest of her body with your hands. By doing so, you are showing her that you love her body and trust me, she will notice.
Also, there’s nothing like some well dosed sensuality to make the temperature rise!
Yes, it seems obvious, timing is everything. Most of the time, women’s libido is pretty high. However, sometimes is just not the right moment.
For example, if your wife is stressed, tired, sad or ill, don’t push yourself on her. If it feels like she wants to rest or do something else, let her. If you don’t, you could annoy her or worse, anger her.
So, choose the ideal moment. Sometimes, to find it, you just need to communicate openly. Tell her that you still love her and that you feel desire for her – if it’s the right time, she will let you know…
In addition, sometimes, the control of one’s own impulsions can help oneself to grow in life…and in bed. (2)
Women need us to be interested in them – even when it comes to the menial things.
Of course, if you don’t ask her how she’s feeling and what she’s been up to, she will feel neglected. Moreover, she will find it difficult to have intimate contact.
So, if you haven’t been there emotionally, it’s time to improve your communications skills. Be there when she needs you.
For instance, if she has too many things to deal with, give her hand with some of it.
Or, maybe she needs emotional support. In this case, reassure her, try finding solutions together or find a nice place to take her mind off her worries.
By doing what I just mentioned regularly, you will show her how much you care. However, this doesn’t guarantee sex but, it will show her that you are a reliable partner. Consequently, someone that she can count on. And that’s crucial to make your wife horny in the first place!
Let’s revisit the definition of romanticism first!
Romanticism doesn’t necessarily mean showering your loved one with flowers, chocolates or inviting her to a fancy diner.
Being romantic is an act of generosity (it doesn’t have to involve money) that translates your affection to your partner. This act solely depends of you, your personality and more importantly, your wife’s. After all, she’s the one you are trying to impress.
For example, if you live near the countryside, a natural park, the ocean or a lake, go for a walk, a camping trip or a hike! Don’t forget to get some water, food and adequate clothing though. 😉
Otherwise, you could organize a cinema night at home. Get her favourite movie, prepare some lovely home-made snacks, a nice bottle of wine or an infusion, get some candles out – and here you go, a glorious recipe for a cosy romantic night.
So, it’s up to you to imagine what she would enjoy and by doing the effort, you will show her how much you care. And that’s worth a thousand words!
So to make your wife horny, you’ve got to make your wife happy …with you.
Sometimes, you just need to get out of your routine to reinforce your relationship. So, be innovative, a little crazy and brave!
Also, take care of yourself, improve your diet, exercise regularly, lose your extra weight and if needed, go see a therapist.
After all, those are qualities that also attract us so, it seems logical to cultivate them in us…
(1) Implicit and explicit preferences for physical attractiveness in a romantic partner: a double dissociation in predictive validity. Eastwick PW, Eagly AH, Finkel EJ, Johnson SE. J Pers Soc Psychol. 2011.
(2) Everyday temptations: an experience sampling study of desire, conflict, and self-control. Hofmann W, Baumeister RF, Förster G, Vohs KD. J Pers Soc Psychol. 2012.
Many of us have experienced disappointments when it comes to love and sometimes, we can doubt the stability of our current relationship. So, instead of waiting for a disaster, it’s always better to figure out what’s wrong. For instance, if you wonder if your partner is unfaithful… there are things you can do and others, you can’t.
Discover what’s what with our help.
Several things can tell you, if your relationship is going well or not. Afterwards, it will be up to you, to figure out whether or not, you want to continue.
If you feel something is wrong, it may be the case. However, sometimes, your suspicions could be the result of your own insecurity. Therefore, before looking for signs, ask yourself if the different behaviour isn’t the result of something else.
In other words, talk with your other half before going down the following path.
Although, if the conversation lacks honesty, feel free to follow our advice. But, it’s crucial not to step certain boundaries – the ones that could break your relationship forever. Because, at the end of the day, if your partner isn’t unfaithful…well, you get it.
Often, it’s more obvious to discover a man cheating on his woman. In this case, women tend to be far more discreet.
So, be attentive and importantly, analyse your current relationship. For example, are you a happy couple? Have you taken the route of complacency and routine? Have you turned a blind eye on your current status?
Indeed, complacency can push a person to become unfaithful. In other words, to start with, be honest with yourself. (1)
As a matter of fact, to confirm your suspicions, the best way is through observation and communication.
Indeed, observe if her routine is different and be curious about the why. However, even if any change is a sign, it doesn’t necessarily mean your partner is unfaithful – if anything, it also could be something positive.
For example, if your partner asks you about your work schedule or when will you be home, it could mean that she’s planning something.
To know if she’s genuinely curious or not, you could come home a bit earlier than planned. Consequently, you will be able to observe her reaction.
If your wife/partner often rejects the fault on you and complains non-stop, there’s an issue. Nonetheless, be aware that your own attitude could be the cause of it. Thus, it’s essential to question yourself, when necessary. (2)
However, if she’s using a blaming tactic to justify her acts, it could be because of an actual betrayal.
So, if you don’t think you are to blame and have questioned yourself thoroughly, continue searching for the truth.
Do you remember the beginning of your relationship, I would imagine that both of you were really taking care of your appearance.
And it’s normal, at the beginning of a relationship or courtship, we want to be liked and be seductive. In consequence, we dress well and sweat more in the gym. However, over time, we tend to do less when it comes to appearance and that’s okay (as long as we don’t entirely forget to take care of ourselves).
So, if your partner has been taking care of herself more than usual. For instance, she wears more make up or dresses up more often (when she’s not going out with you). Or, she spends an extra eternity in the bathroom…
…she could be hiding something but… not necessarily cheating though.
The interest of your other half for your schedule can hide something. Similarly, a lack of time for you can also be suspicious.
Let’s illustrate this: for a while now, your partner refuses your invitations to go out, she finds excuses to avoid sleeping or spending time with you. Infidelity or not, be aware that your relationship is in grave danger!
So, once again, be observant, ask questions and ideally, ask her and yourself (with subtlety) the following. Why aren’t you as available? Have you argued lately? Maybe, she isn’t sharing her emotions much any more?
By asking yourself and her directly such questions, you might be able to shed some light onto the current situation.
To know is your partner is unfaithful, observation and communication are key methods.
However, sometimes, we can be tempted to go further. But, if your suspicions are not substantiated, you could destroy your relationship…forever.
Consequently, ALWAYS control your impulses and if you can’t, get out, exercise or/and meet with a relative/friend. Moreover, do not follow your partner, do not look into her things or phone, and do not interrogate her friends and family. By avoiding all of that, not only will you protect your integrity but in the best scenario, your relationship too.
Furthermore, avoid ANY kind of violence, psychological or physical. Indeed, don’t forget that physical violence is punishable by law and so is harassment.
Additionally, other signs can help you figure out if your partner is unfaithful: no more common hobbies, a mysterious new friend, very little to no sex, an unknown perfume, she doesn’t want to kiss you or does it reluctantly, she’s found a new passion, etc.
Generally, if most of these signs are happening, there’s a big chance that your suspicions are real.
Therefore, if you really think that your partner is unfaithful, ask her or ask her again. Moreover, ask her at the right time – meaning, when there’s no work, appointments or any other planed event.
Be brave my friend, hopefully, it’s nothing bad.
(1) Attachment Insecurity and Infidelity in Marriage: Do Studies of Dating Relationships Really Inform Us about Marriage? V. Michelle Russell, Levi R. Baker, and James K. McNulty. J Fam Psychol. 2013.
(2) A Sociology of Treason : The Construction of Weakness. Vasilis Galis, Francis Lee. Sage Journal. 2013.
Being relaxed during intercourse, isn’t necessarily a skill shared by all. For instance, it could be linked to a lack of experience, low self-esteem, performance anxiety, physical insecurity or generalized stress. So, in any case, how to reduce stress during sex to be able to enjoy it 100%?
Are you anxious and can’t be yourself before or during sexual intercourse? Know that you are not an isolated case, it happens to many of us. When the mind isn’t at 100% and the body shuts down, it’s understandable to struggle to have satisfying sex.
However, it’s possible to deal with whatever is causing the blockage and consequently, getting rid of it. So, for everything related to emotions, more often than not, the solution is to face one’s fears. Indeed, sex is after all, an act of physical abandonment and release. During sexual intercourse, each side gives itself to the other. Thus, it makes sense that the problem needs to be treated at the root – in order to be able to thrive in life AND sexually.
Moreover, you should know that chronic stress or extreme stress can break havoc in our bodies. Actually, after a prolonged period of stress, our bodies secrete an hormone, cortisol. However, high levels of cortisol can be incredibly damaging. Cortisol can weaken the immune system, trigger auto-immune diseases and worsen mental diseases.
There are two main sexual blockages:
Inhibition: This sexual blockage is common in sexually inexperienced people. For instance, in shy people or introverts who sometimes struggle to deal with their emotions. Generally, the reasons leading to inhibition are fear of rejection or of being judged. Also, people who have been physically abused are susceptible to have this blockage during sex.
Performance Anxiety: This crippling anxiety is incredibly common and is often, the result of what is seen in the media. Especially, the image of sex shown in pornography. However, this representation of sex devoid of any sensuality and often, of respect, is NOT a representation of real sex.
In addition, many sufferers of performance anxiety are often scared of not being able to have good enough erections or of not being able to make their partners climax. (1)
So, anxious people are focused on performance and their fear of not being able to perform satisfyingly. Whereas inhibited people a scared of their emotions and avoid spontaneity.
Multiple studies have shown that ¼ of anxious men suffer from erectile dysfunction (ED). Indeed, the issue is incredibly common and stress is usually the culprit!
So, if you suffer from ED and anxiety, it’s very likely that the latter is causing your erectile dysfunction. However, to deal with the anxiety, I highly recommend consulting a sexologist or a therapist.
Periods of stress will usually destroy libido. Indeed, when the brain is overloaded, it’s normal to lose any sexual desire. Moreover, a sudden anxiety or a strong stress can have the same results. However, should it last too long, it will be necessary to take the appropriate measures to treat it. If it’s temporary, don’t worry, it’s normal.
Now, you know that anxiety can be dealt with. Moreover, a study has demonstrated that erectile dysfunction caused by stress and anxiety can be dealt with psychology far more successfully than medicine. (2)
The following tips will help you reduce and eventually, conquer stress during sex. In order to have a fun sexual life without any second thoughts.
Before treating your body, treat your brain. Indeed, the brain is the first sexual organ and if it’s saturated with anxiety or negative thoughts, it can’t even begin to process sexual pleasure. And, in some cases, you won’t be able to get a hard on.
Thus, to reduce stress, you will need to learn to disconnect and free your emotions and sexual impulses.
Be tolerant and rationalize the useless pressure you put on yourself. Also, accept desire and tenderness. In other words, be open to real intimacy.
After letting go, you will be able to listen to your body and desires with hightened senses. Thus, let your instinctive and animal side rule, while leaving 1/10th of your brain on (to communicate and be respectful).
If your partner isn’t happy about what you are doing, stop and do something you both enjoy. Also, if you want to try something new, don’t be afraid to ask if she’s up for it beforehand.
Also, if your partner does something you don’t enjoy, let her know. Communication is essential to really satisfy both persons involved during sexual intercourse.
In addition, if you are to stressed, talk about it. Share anxiety, especially, if it’s linked to something specific. For instance, the mere fact of talking about a fear can relieve or even dissipate anxiety.
In order to relax the mood, sometimes a touch of originality and humour are what’s needed. For example, if you are up for it, you can role play or try some sexual gadgets. Also, you can have a fit of laughter over something silly, admit your craziest fantasies, etc.
If you need more ideas, check the corners of Internet – there are many ways to spice up your sexual life!
In conclusion, and this is one of the most important things, it’s crucial to take care of stress long term. To do so, you will need to take care of yourself inside out.
Start taming your body and mind with hobbies that you enjoy. Moreover, you can try yoga, meditation, acting, massage, sophrology, high-intensity exercise, painting or learning a musical instrument – anything that takes your fancy and helps you deal with stress healthily.
No matter what, do things that work for you and that truly make you feel good!
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(1) The role of performance anxiety in the development and maintenance of sexual dysfunction in men and women. McCabe. International Journal of Stress Management. 2005.
(2) Stress management and erectile dysfunction: a pilot comparative study. Kalaitzidou I, Venetikou MS, Konstadinidis K, Artemiadis AK, Chrousos G, Darviri C. Andrologia. 2014.
Unfortunately, infidelity is a reality that has been experienced by many of us (and women aren’t immune either – 25% of married men are unfaithful and 20% of married women are too). However, past the initial shock when faced with a horrible truth, it’s crucial to know how to react when your wife has been unfaithful. (1)
There’s no smoke without fire. When it comes to infidelity, it is usually true that the person who’s been unfaithful will often think about it for a while and in a moment of weakness (or not) the will succumb to temptation. However, with or without premeditation, infidelity is generally caused by an unstable and/or unhealthy relationship.
So, maybe you saw early warning signs? For example, your wife shared what was in her heart and her questions about the future, and you didn’t pay attention?
It can happen. However, you ought to know that women will share these emotional things and if they do so, it’s because they need to. Admittedly, it’s much harder for us to do the same. But it’s not impossible, like any skill, it can be learned.
Because if your wife doesn’t feel valued or heard, there is a very real risk that she will emotional disconnect from you. Thus, there’s a higher risk of infidelity.
In the future, be patient, listen and be observant to see if any changes of behavior or personality occur. Especially, if she becomes distant with you. When you see it, you can talk about it before it gets worse. However, if you don’t, you will need to work on your observational and listening skills.
Usually, the first reaction when faced with infidelity is anger and/or sorrow. And that’s normal, after all, someone you love and trust betrayed you. However, even if the pain seems overwhelming right now, know this, eventually it will get easier and you will have to confront reality.
Reality is never simple. Indeed, if your wife cheated on you, there must be reasons that lead to it. These reasons can be her own, from someone out of your relationship or linked to your relationship.
For instance, in a nightmarish scenario, your wife fell in love with another man. Moreover, if she has developed deep feeling for another person, it will be incredibly hard to overcome this new reality. More so, if the cheating has been going on for a while.
However, if the reason was purely sexual or came out from frustration, the damage done isn’t as devastating (still is, I know) and the possibility of rebuilding the relationship is way more probable.
Generally, infidelity is the result of a lack of something – it could be: a lack of novelty, of desire, of attraction, of charm, of excitation, of unknown, etc. These things need to be cultivated in a relationship to ensure a solid foundation.
Actually, if the lack of something is real, infidelity becomes more understandable. However, I didn’t say forgivable, that is up to you and no one but you can make that leap.
After communication and establishing facts on both sides, a choice will have to be made. Let’s not be afraid of words, infidelity is heartbreaking and will tear your soul apart. Especially, if you didn’t suspect it.
However, when dealing with uncontrollable feelings, you will need to control your anger. Indeed, mental or physical violence is the WORSE reaction one can have. Moreover, it’s punishable by law. So, to avoid breaking your relationship forever, avoid violent words or acts.
Faced with the facts, you will need to keep as cool as possible and if you can’t, get out, go to the gym or go meet a friend or a relative. Also, when applicable, you will have to understand what has lead your wife to be unfaithful. Consequently, if her explanations are satisfying, you will have the possibility to rebuilt what has been destroyed. If that’s not possible, you will have behaved like a grown-up and you will continue to grow as a result.
No matter what, you won’t have to ask yourself how to react when your wife has been unfaithful – you will be able to. If you lose your shit, get out and find support before doing something unforgivable.
Infidelity is one of the most soul breaking things that can happen but you can heal.
However, there’s no coming back from violence. Once, it’s done, no one can’t take it back.
I hope that this article will help you figure out how to react when your wife has been unfaithful. However, nothing replaces intuition and I can assure you that it isn’t just a women thing. So, if you truly believe that your relationship can be rebuilt, try to. But if your other half isn’t ready to deal with a future with you, do not bother.
I wish you strength and also, do not forget, the pain won’t last forever!
(1) Attachment Insecurity and Infidelity in Marriage: Do Studies of Dating Relationships Really Inform Us about Marriage? V. Michelle Russell, Levi R. Baker, and James K. McNulty. J Fam Psychol. 2013.
Often, erectile troubles are still seen as taboo in our society. However, slowly but surely, things are changing and today, we have access to educative material to deal with the issue. So, there is no reason to be afraid, in all likelihood, you can improve your issue. After all, what would life be without sex. Let’s go back to the subject at hand… So, can medications cause erectile dysfunction?
If so, that would be on nasty side effect.
Surely, a drug should only treat a specific issue. However, sometimes, they do interfere with sexual health and fertility, and that’s a real problem.
So, if you take pills to treat your health issues, I highly recommend you to read the following!
If you have noticed that the quality of your erections has reduced, over time or suddenly, you should read the leaflet(s) of your medication(s) as soon as possible. Indeed, many drugs CAN cause erectile dysfunction.
Often, you can read on them something similar to this: “this type of drug is susceptible to lead to a loss of libido, erectile dysfunction or impotency”.
Consequently, it’s of the utmost importance to read your leaflets. Ideally, before starting a new medication.
If your medication or medications are causing your erectile dysfunction – or ED – you will have to be extremely careful. Especially, if you can’t stop your medication suddenly because for some, that’s simply way too dangerous.
Your medication has been prescribed by a doctor for a good reason. For instance, if you suffer from high blood pressure, by stopping your drug, you could dangerously raise your already precarious blood pressure. Therefore, being prudent is essential. Instead of going for the risky solution, get an appointment with your doctor and explain the situation. Afterwards, your doc will be able to prescribe you another medicine that is as efficient BUT devoid of the terrible side effect.
In some cases, your doctor may not be willing to stop the medication causing ED. If that’s the case, it’s up to you to decide whether you want to continue or not. However, KNOW that your condition could dramatically worsen. This is not a decision that should be taken lightly. Consequently, do not jeopardise your health for sexy times, that would be silly, right?
According to the latest statistics, one man out of five suffers from ED. Moreover, as I previously said, medications are usually the culprit. Among them, you will find that antidepressants can interfere with testosterone levels and blood pressure reducing medicine can cause ED.
To help you figure out if your medications can cause ED, read the following (but don’t forget to read your leaflet too, this list is not exhaustive):
Groups of Drugs
Ramipril, Captopril, Enalapril, Fosinopril, Lisinopril
Water Retention (Diuretic)
Atenolol, Bisoprolol, Carvedilol, Nebivolol, Pindolol, Propranolol, Metoprolol
Calcium Channel Blockers
Amlodipine, Verapamil, Diltiazem
Serotonin and Norepinephrine re-uptake inhibitors (SNRI)
Selective serotonin re-uptake inhibitors (SSRIs)
Amitriptylin, Amitriptylinoxide, Clomipramin, Desipramin, Doxepin, Imipramin, Nortriptylin
Diclofenac, Acemetacin, Indometacin, acetylsalicylic acid
Bezafibrate, Fenofibrate, Gemfibrozil
CSE inhibitors (statins)
Simvastatin, Fluvastatin, Cerivastatin, Atorvastatin, Pravastatin, Rosuvastatin
Anxiety, Epilepsy, Parkinson’s disease
Acemetacin, acetylsalicylique acid, Diclofenac, Indometacin
Non-steroidal anti-inflammatory drugs (NSAIDs)
Ibuprofen, Diclofenac, Naproxene
Sometimes, men suffering from impotence that also take anti-hypertensive drugs are the ideal candidates for erectile dysfunction.
For the ones suffering from a cardiovascular disease, beta-blockers can diminish blood flow towards the penis and thus, this will create erectile issues. (1)
Anti-arrhythmic agents (heart rate regulators) and medication like Digoxin can also favour erectile dysfunction.
Furthermore, diuretics (often prescribed for those suffering from a cardiovascular disease) can cause impotence.
Often, drugs used to treat psychological problems can cause ED. For instance, tricyclic antidepressants, lithium, MAO inhibitors and SSRIs are known to cause ED.
Although, we still don’t understand exactly why – the best theory so far would be a modification of brain neurotransmitters.
Moreover, neuroleptics, anxiolytics and anorectics can also cause ED.
IMPORTANT: Some medications are essential to maintain mental health. Consequently, it’s indispensable to consult your doctor before changing your current treatment.
Hypercholesterolemia agents used to regulate cholesterol can also lead to impotence. The culprits are statins, they reduce cholesterol AND testosterone levels – a disaster in the making. Moreover, the benefits of statins are still up for debate. For most, a radical diet and lifestyle change could be far more beneficial. (2)
In most cases, medications aren’t the only cause of impotence, lifestyle also plays a major role. So, take responsibility for your own health, if you wish to see improvements in your sexual life.
For instance, start by improving your diet and exercising regularly. Small steps and routine are the keywords that will lead you to success.
(1) Nitric oxide, erectile dysfunction and beta-blocker treatment (MR NOED study): benefit of nebivolol versus metoprolol in hypertensive men. Brixius K, Middeke M, Lichtenthal A, Jahn E, Schwinger RH. Clin Exp Pharmacol Physiol. 2007.
(2) The effect of statin therapy on testosterone levels in subjects consulting for erectile dysfunction. Corona G, Boddi V, Balercia G, Rastrelli G, De Vita G, Sforza A, Forti G, Mannucci E, Maggi M. J Sex Med. 2010.
Masturbation is the universal link that connects all men. Also, it’s during our teenagers that we learned what our noodle enjoyed. However, regular pleasuring is sometimes just a step away from regular…addiction. Therefore, if your masturbating habit has become less than enjoyable and borderline obsessive, if not full blown – and your sexual life is difficult or nonexistent – or you would like to stop masturbating for religious, spiritual or physical reasons…Discover how to stop masturbating with 10 proven methods…
If you are wanking because you just don’t know what to do – it’s time to find some new hobbies!
Try some activities that you are curious about and stick with the ones you truly enjoy. In this way, you will be able to replace idleness with something far more interesting than a “why not” wank.
There are many things out there to do, some free, some not, you could give a try to: writing, learning an instrument (YouTube is your friend…), painting, drawing, soccer, basketball, tennis, martial arts, weight lifting, running or maybe, a new skill?
To do so, research what are the courses available in your local area or alternatively, opt for an online course (many are free)!
If you exercise regularly and your diet is on point, you will have incorporated in your lifestyle a good amount of discipline. Discipline is key to resist when “the need” arises.
So, step by step, implement small changes to improve your discipline and create a healthier routine.
If you are masturbating often because you feel lonely, know that there are ways to limit loneliness.
For instance, you could join a video-game, board game, coding, sport or manual activity club to stop masturbating.
Also, when your friends invite you to do something, go for it. Even if you would rather stay at home. By going out more often, you are bound to meet new people.
Moreover, you could try online dating. Nearly all of us have done it at some point and more often than not, you will meet, at least, one interesting person!
When it comes to recreational masturbation, porn is the MAIN enemy. It’s hard to resit the temptation when your fantasies are just a few clicks away. Therefore, the only solution is the most radical one, if your porn makes you automatically go down on it…you will have to STOP. To help you stop masturbating, you will have to stop porn. Really!
What do I mean? Well, if you don’t get enough tough love, you will have to give it to yourself.
I am talking about is discipline, again. For example, one thing that helps a lot of people, is to start the day writing a to do list. Write the most important things first. Then, start by doing all the small tasks and focus on the bigger ones after that. Also, make sure to cross everything, that’s THE ultimate satisfaction. It will give you a better sense of accomplishment.
When you are twiddling with your thumbs, look at your to do list!
Blackmailing sucks. Period. However, blackmailing yourself can be useful. It can allow you to improve and stay on the straight and narrow.
For instance, gift yourself a nice meal or a video game after a solid two weeks without any wanking. You deserve it!
However, avoid gifting yourself something that has any sort of sexual connotation or by…masturbating yourself. That would be quite counter-intuitive and ineffective long term. Moreover, it could make your addiction to wanking worse!
If you have tried everything or nearly, be open to an external opinion. Put shame aside and think about your future. Asking for help is a brave act and most people will see it as such – whether you are asking it from a religious person or a medical professional.
In addition, don’t hesitate to ask for a second opinion, religious representatives and medical professionals are not all-knowing or all-wise. Like us, they can make mistakes, they are human. Especially, if the advice given doesn’t sound right for you.
Eating seems to be an essential part of being alive – right? As important as breathing or drinking.
However, our bodies can survive for several WEEKS without food. I wouldn’t recommend a fast longer than a week without medical supervision.
Instead, you could try intermittent fasting – or IF. With IF you can eat for a certain window of time and “fast” for the rest. For example, you can eat for 8 hours between noon and 8pm, and fast until noon the following day. You can have a shorter period of time and you can adjust the window to match your own preferences. (1)
Fasting is great to distract you from sexual desires and it will allow you to reflect on the nature of your desire in order to eventually, learn to control it.
When you stop masturbating, you will:
After all, it would be hard to remember all of these methods without checking them out every now and then. Please do yourself a favor and re-read this article to stay on track. Especially, when temptation is lurking everywhere.
Feel free to leave us a comment if you have a question or need help to help you stop masturbating. Also, you can find “no fap” communities all over Internet to give you a little extra motivation!
(1) Chronic Intermittent Fasting Improves Cognitive Functions and Brain Structures in Mice. Liaoliao Li, Zhi Wang, Zhiyi Zuo. PLOS. 2013.
(2) Influence of ejaculation frequency on seminal parameters. B. Jose Manuel Mayorga-Torres, Mauricio Camargo, Ashok Agarwal, Stefan S. du Plessis, Ángela P. Cadavid, and Walter D. Cardona Maya. Reprod Biol Endocrinol. 2015.
If you enjoy impressing your other half or your one night stand with amazing loads, this article is for you. Discover how to increase ejaculate force and load with our tested and efficient advice.
Often, my friends ask me if it’s even possible. To which I promptly answer: “Yes but you won’t find much information about it. It’s not considered disabling whatsoever”. Therefore, it’s about time, we need to write a bit more about the matter.
There is nothing wrong with wanting bigger loads, after all it’s just another virility sign. However, with testosterone levels in free fall all around the world, it’s not surprising to see our ejaculations loads getting smaller.
And that’s the real problem.
Let’s have look at the different ways the we can use to increase ejaculate force and load
To increase ejaculate force and load, often, you just need to improve your lifestyle. For instance, by improving your diet and exercise routine, you should be able to observe a significant difference over time. Moreover, by learning how to deal with stress better, improving your sleeping patterns and ensuring you sleep enough, you can only improve what happens when it all comes out!
Sometimes, the magic recipe is obvious and in this case it is, it all starts by a healthy lifestyle.
If you are overweight or obese, it’s crucial to lose some weight to boost your testosterone levels and ejaculations. Start by reducing your daily calorific intake (eat less). For example, you could try intermittent fasting (IF) to eat less. Try eating for a window of 8 hours daily and fast for the remaining 16 hours (during Zzz time).
Also, you will find many apps that can help you track your calories and your macros (quantity of lipids, protein and carbs that you need to consume daily).
Exercise regularly. How can you do that when you’re not used to it? First, choose something that really appeals to you and try different activities, to make sure you truly like it. Moreover, stick to a routine, go to your gym or do your exercise at the same time and the same days, to install a routine.
Ideally, you will need to exercise 3 to 6 times per week and mix cardio and resistance training (weight lifting is brilliant to boost your testosterone levels).
If you don’t have much time, opt for a HIIT routine (research it), it allows you to get a good cardio session in about 15/20 minutes instead of 45 min/1 hour.
Avoid industrial and fast food, they are full of trans fats, additives, sugar and other nefarious stuff. Learn to cook simple meals and food prep during the week-end. Especially, if you haven’t got much time to cook daily.
Limit your alcohol intake to improve your testosterone levels. (1)
Drink enough water daily. Dehydration is terrible for your health and sexual health. Drink at least 2 liters of water daily and up your intake when you are exercising or when it’s hot.
Avoid products packaged in plastic as much as possible. Also, choose hygiene products devoid of parabens, PPT and BPA. All of this components can mess with your hormones and boost your feminine ones.
Masturbation reduces the amount of sperm in your testes. So, if you wank regularly, you just need to do it less often, to boost your load when you are having intercourse … with the partner you are trying to impress!
If you are having a lot of sexy times in a short amount of time, try to refrain from ejaculating at first. (Kegel exercises can help, I will mention them below).
I strongly recommend zinc and folic acid supplements.
Zinc is an essential trace element that contributes to various factors linked to cellular metabolism. Moreover, associated with folic acid, it will increase ejaculations loads up to 74%, as seen in a study with men with fertility troubles. (2)
For optimal results, take 5mg of folic acid and 66mg of zinc sulfate.
Important: If you take any medication and/or already have a healthy diet, ask your doctor if it’s really useful in your case.
Your little testes swimmers hate heat. Indeed, they really do – if the temperature of your testes is higher than 37°C (98°F), your fertility and the quantity of sperm will be hindered. Incidentally, our bodies are clearly the result of brilliant engineering since, our testes are out of our bodies.
On a practical level, avoid sitting for prolonged extended periods (gor for a small walk every hour) or in a car exposed to sunshine (cover your bits with something white), in the sauna or a bath for too long.
Additionally, tight underwear can also increase the temperature of your scrotum and testes. Consequently, it will eventually diminish sperm quantity and sperm count. Also, slim or tight jeans are not advised.
Kegel exercises are targeted exercises that will boost your pelvic muscles (the ones you use to pee and to have gorgeous erections).
By improving the strength of your pelvic and perineal muscles, you will improve your prostate health, reduce the risk of precocious ejaculations and in the long term, you will be able to control your ejaculations and improve the quality of your orgasms!
To conclude, there are many things one can do to increase ejaculate force and load! By following the advice mentioned above, you should see an improvement in a month or two. However, to keep the benefits, you will have to keep the good lifestyle! No pain, no gain! 😉 I’m half kidding, you will enjoy it and it will definitely be worth it. Truly.
(1) Ethanol inhibits testosterone biosynthesis by direct action on Leydig cells. Ellingboe J, Varanelli CC. Res Commun Chem Pathol Pharmacol. 1979.
(2) Effects of folic acid and zinc sulfate on male factor subfertility: a double-blind, randomized, placebo-controlled trial. Wong WY, Merkus HM, Thomas CM, Menkveld R, Zielhuis GA, Steegers-Theunissen RP. Fertil Steril. 2002.
Nowadays, masturbation is not quite as taboo as it used to be. And within reason, since it’s about discovering your body and flooding it with feeling good hormones. However, there are side effects when it comes to masturbating too much.
Before getting into it, let me preface this article by saying that when done reasonably, masturbation is healthy. After all, it’s a source of pleasure that stimulates the immune system, improves mood and reduces stress.
On the other hand, when we polish our noodle too often, it can become dangerous and that’s what I will explain in this article…
Masturbating too much is often linked to obsessive behaviours. For instance, if you absolutely need to have a quickie every single day, at a specific time and/or several times, it can easily become obsessive. If it isn’t yet.
Before sharing the signs of someone who suffers from chronic masturbation, I will explain the risks linked to it.
Masturbatory excess can cause important behavioural issues. Especially, when it comes to sexual intercourse. For example: if someone needs a pornographic stimulation in order to have an erection, that person may find it difficult to have one with an actual sexual partner.
Also, this kind of sexual dependency can interfere in the work environment, personal life and it can increase feelings of guilt (as if the person was doing something prohibited).
There is no real definition that differentiates someone who masturbates regularly and another that does it too frequently. However, the negative effects resulting from it are very real.
A doctor and/or a therapist can REALLY help you. I mean that.
Do not become obsessed with your wanking practice… The problem isn’t really linked to quantity – as always quality is far more important. Also, it’s far more important to masturbate because of an actual need/release versus boredom/depression/habit.
The question that you should ask yourself is: Do you masturbate to compensate the lack of something or because a natural surge of desire happens?
If you feel guilty afterwards or if masturbating impacts your daily life, there’s an issue.
I strongly recommand a consultation with a psychologist or sexologist, if you think there is a problem. Do not be ashamed, these professionals are respectful people and by law, they can’t share what’s been said.
Don’t wait any longer!
(1) Neural Correlates of Sexual Cue Reactivity in Individuals with and without Compulsive Sexual Behaviours. Valerie Voon ,Thomas B. Mole, Paula Banca, Laura Porter, Laurel Morris, Simon Mitchell, Tatyana R. Lapa, Judy Karr, Neil A. Harrison, Marc N. Potenza, Michael Irvine. Plos One. 2014.
To know your testosterone levels, you only need to ask for a blood test (and specify why, of course). You will get your results of free testosterone, total testosterone and bio-available testosterone.
Also, should you doctor require it, you will have your cortisol levels tested (stress hormone) and your estrogen levels (feminine hormone). This will be done in order to determine the health of your hormonal profile and find suitable solutions, if needed.
Testosterone is an androgenic hormone secreted by the testes and in smaller quantities, by the adrenal glands.
It is the main steroidal and male sex hormone – it is also found in women but in lesser quantities.
Testosterone – or T – plays a crucial role in sexual functioning and health in general. Over time, testosterone levels diminish. However, T levels can also be affected by other factors, among which tobacco, obesity, alcohol, stress, diabetes, certain diseases, etc. (1)
In other words, should you suffer from one or more of the symptoms, you should get a professional opinion to confirm whether you are indeed suffering from low T levels.
However, this should not prevent you from improving your lifestyle, regardless of the results. It never hurts to optimize healthy T levels and make sure that you will maintain them over time.
Once you know your testosterone levels, you should take more attention to your diet and physical regimen. Moreover, that’s even more important if your T levels are low or very low. There is many things that you can implement in your routine to improve T levels.
Nonetheless, to start with, you will have to reevaluate your diet and incorporate testosterone boosting foods.
Also, to boost your T levels, you can take a natural supplement. Forskoline, Tribulus Terrestris, Maca, Tongkat Ali and Sarsaparilla are plants that can help you improve your T levels. Check this out, to know more.
In addition, specific nutrients like magnesium, zinc, selenium, vitamin D3, omega-3, carnitine, arginine can also improve testosterone synthesis, fertility and libido.
Still, before buying your supplements, you should consult your doctor and ask for a blood test. Especially with nutrients like zinc, an excess can result in disastrous consequences.
Ideally, your diet should contain 45% of proteins to boost your T levels (for a limited period – think a month or two maximum).
The quality of your fats is incredibly important. Prefer quality oils like extra virgin olive oil, cold-pressed rapeseed oil, organic coconut oil (high resistance to heat), organic butter and/or butter from grass-fed cows, ghee (for high temperature cooking), etc.
Also, nuts, seeds and avocados are brilliant sources of healthy fats and perfect for snacking!
If your lifestyle is rather sedentary, start exercising a bit more. You could try an activity that has always fascinated you. Give it a go and enjoy! Hiking is also an option for the nature lovers.
However, to optimize your T levels efficiently, weight lifting is without a doubt a great ally! (2)
If you are overweight or obese, weight loss will help you tremendously to have normal T levels. This article will help you find the most suitable diet to lose weight.
If you are a smoker, know that tobacco affects testosterone levels. So does, excessive drinking. Seriously consider stopping or diminishing both addictions.
Too much testosterone can also have consequences. Especially, if you have taken a synthetic testosterone. If you have one or more of the following symptoms, consult a doctor: an explosive temper or temper tantrums, violent outbursts, risky behaviors, etc.
You are now equipped to know your testosterone levels. It is now up to you, to improve your lifestyle to boost them and get your health in check! However, incorporate new changes progressively, do not go all in, it may not work.
Creating a new healthy routine is far more beneficial for your health and your testosterone levels, over time.
Continue reading us for more advice!
(1) Low Serum Testosterone and Mortality in Older Men. Gail A. Laughlin, Elizabeth Barrett-Connor, and Jaclyn Bergstrom J Clin Endocrinol Metab. 2008.
(2) Testosterone and cortisol in relationship to dietary nutrients and resistance exercise. Jeff S. Volek, William J. Kraemer, Jill A. Bush, Thomas Incledon, Mark Boetes. Journal of Applied Physiology. 1997.
Voluminous breasts are usually something we find attractive in women – or not, to each their own. The point being is that men don’t really enjoy having breasts. Especially when it’s the result of being overweight or having a hormonal imbalance. So, how does one lose breast fat?
A fatty chest will tend to create distorted pectorals (visually speaking). Aesthetically, this is far cry from the generic chest that is portrayed in the medias, usually flat with a bit of muscular volume.
In order to lose breast fat, there is no magical pill. It all starts by losing weight. Fat deposits are all over our bodies and there is no way to lose them locally. However, you can accelerate the process and improve the strength and physical appearance of your pecs!
Where do we start then? With…
To start weight loss, you will need to reevaluate your diet and lifestyle. Most importantly, you’ll have to be honest with yourself while doing so! Weight loss will be the result of a diet change and exercise will help you maintain and improve your shape.
Eventually, when losing weight, you will notice that your chest area gets smaller and smaller, step by step. And that’s a good thing, you don’t want to lose weight too fast. Because, it’s simply unsustainable and unhealthy – the likelihood of gaining everything back is very high and with extra weight on top of it.
To maintain weight loss and accelerate it, nothing beats exercise! Exercising will develop your muscular mass and boost your metabolism. Actually, the fitter you are, the more your muscles will need energy aka calories. On the flip side, don’t overdo it too much food wise – increase your protein intake if needed and get a bit more carbs, if you are planning to have a big sporty session.
If you haven’t exercised in a while, you could start by going to the gym and trying different things. Also, bringing a friend is a great idea to keep yourself accountable and motivated.
For instance, weight lifting is an excellent way to boost your testosterone levels!
If you are looking for a slender look and to boost your weight loss, go for cardio! A cardiovascular activity like running or HIIT (High-Intensity Interval Training) is ideal. Additionally, if you prefer collective sports, you could also try the following: football (soccer), basketball, rowing, martial arts (boxing, kung-fu, karate, jujitsu, judo, etc.), rugby, handball, tennis or anything else that takes your fancy. (1)
However, no matter what, find something you really enjoy, motivation alone isn’t enough to keep on exercising!
If you want to have a successful weight loss, you will have to change your habits slowly and increment new ones progressively. If you change everything rapidly, your motivation will dwindle extremely fast.
When starting on the road of weight loss, we usually get very excited – “this is it, step one towards change”. However, weight loss takes time, especially if you want to lose fat instead of muscle and water.
Rather than using all your motivation to get started, try setting weekly little goals and reach them. In addition, if a friend wants to lose weight too, motivate him and ask him to do the same.
Moreover, ditch the scale. Instead measure yourself (once every two weeks or per month). You will notice that inches around your waist and chest disappear way faster than numbers on the scale. Also, you could keep track your measurements on a chart. On top of that, I highly recommend taking pictures of yourself in underwear once a month. When your will is weakening, have a look at those pictures to realize how far you’ve come!
Important: There’s another reason for breast fat and it’s a condition called gynecomastia. This condition can cause an excessive development of breasts in men. (2)
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(1) Effects of aerobic and/or resistance training on body mass and fat mass in overweight or obese adults. Leslie H. Willis, Cris A. Slentz, Lori A. Bateman, A. Tamlyn Shields, Lucy W. Piner, Connie W. Bales, Joseph A. Houmard, and William E. Kraus. J Appl Physiol (1985). 2012.
(2) Gynecomastia: Clinical evaluation and management. Neslihan Cuhaci, Sefika Burcak Polat, Berna Evranos, Reyhan Ersoy, and Bekir Cakir. Indian J Endocrinol Metab. 2014.