How to make her come every single time? Well, every guy must have thought about this question once, if not several times in his life.
However, it’s not always simple to make a woman come. For instance, there’s no real guide or instruction manual to get there. Also, many women have never experienced a single orgasm. Thus, this reflects a very sad truth: many men do not know HOW to make a woman come.
But that’s the point of this article, to point out important things to know how to make her come…every single time.
Now, let’s explore the world of the feminine orgasm!
Before the big action, you should always do the fieldwork.
Start by complimenting her, cracking a joke or any other nice and spontaneous attention that comes to mind. For instance, readjusting a pillow under her head is a small gesture that won’t go unnoticed.
In the end, anything that can improve her mood is a go!
And you can start early… For example, by sending her a naughty or subtle text message to stimulate her imagination…
We aren’t going for the usual clichés here – like: men don’t enjoy foreplay and women can’t get enough of it. Meh. People are different and so are couples. There are many variations and do YOU! (1)
However, generally speaking, most women enjoy foreplay and consider it to be a sexual act in itself. So, usually, the more developed (and wild) the foreplay, the more stimulating will be the rest of the meal!
Women usually enjoy when a man explores their body. So, don’t be shy and play with every single corner of her gorgeous body. Not used to it? Experiment!
Start kissing and caressing her, on her neck, her bust and belly. Gently bite into her earlobes, use your tongue to taste her skin. Also, don’t forget to play with her legs, feet, arse, etc.
Finally, do not forget her most intimate part…be gentle and don’t get your teeth out!
How to make her come…
Well, women don’t necessarily work in the same way. For instance, some women prefer clitoridian stimulation and other vaginal, while others need both.
The point being: you can’t avoid her…precious. Trust me, if you do, that’s a big disadvantage for what’s to come.
However, if you are concerned about hygiene, go for a quick and hot shower together!
Moreover, the genital apparatus of a woman is a clean place (on the inside) that does it’s own cleaning. So, if your sexual partner is healthy (and has good hygiene), you shouldn’t have any issues. And no, there’s no toothed monster inside! 😉
To succeed when it comes to the art of cunnilingus – aka tongue playing with a women’s genitals – start by playing delicately with her clitoris and the front face of her vagina. To do so, use your tongue and a couple of fingers. Also, don’t hesitate to open up her big lips to have a better access to the clitoris.
Warning: The clitoris is an EXTREMELY sensitive little gland. So, don’t go crazy either. Observe her reactions to make sure you are doing it right.
When you start to feel her pelvis moving, increase your game-play accordingly…she’s about to come!
Not every position can guarantee success in the orgasm department. As a matter of fact, some positions a far more stimulating than others. For instance, going doggy-style for the whole thing isn’t necessarily a good idea. But a bit of it, can be a good idea.
Let’s illustrate this better: when the clitoris is in contact with your pubic area, not unlike with the reverse missionary, both of you can modulate the amount of friction between your genitals. Thus, you can adjust the intensity of this position.
In addition, the positions that allow a deeper penetration tend to be far more stimulating.
For example, the position of the missionary allows a profound penetration. To do this position the woman places her legs on each side of your shoulders.
Nonetheless, when it comes to positions, don’t go changing them every 5 minutes. Instead, observe the rhythm of the moment and if one of you is uncomfortable or it’s getting a bit repetitive, change your style!
First and foremost, whether you are about to have fun with your wife, partner or booty call…remember to communicate!
For instance, a cook will always want to know if his food is any good. Here, it’s the same.
When you are about to get hot and sticky, ask her whether she prefers “this position or that one”. Especially, if you don’t know what she enjoys.
Also, ask her openly about her favourite positions and sexual fantasies – then, you can oblige (if you want to, of course).
So, how to make her come?
In fact, making a woman come isn’t rocket science. You just need the right knowledge, practice, a bit of patience and a lot of communication!
Generally, it all starts with foreplay that isn’t shy. Don’t be afraid to get dirty, sex shouldn’t be sanitized. So, when foreplay comes, go for it – discover her body & stimulate her clitoris, her internal and external lips, her vagina and find the famous G spot.
Also, if you manage to make her come before the penetration, her vagina will be tighter and more sensitive…and she will be flooded with feel-good hormones… Therefore, you will both have a brilliant time!
(1) Actual and desired duration of foreplay and intercourse: discordance and misperceptions within heterosexual couples. Miller SA, Byers ES. J Sex Res. 2004.
To charm a younger woman – especially after your forties – can be a bit daunting, but it doesn’t have to be. Indeed, depending on your age, hers and the importance of the age gap, many things can happen.
In practical terms, you can get three answers: a yes, a no or a maybe.
However, before starting to charm a younger woman, you will need to be able to read some early signs, to figure out if she’s even remotely interested.
So, if you suspect a yes or a maybe, go for it!
Now, let’s tackle some serious shi*: how to charm a younger woman? Is it really that different?
Before starting practice, remember this: women tend to be more mature than men.
Therefore, a younger woman may have a similar maturity level, despite the age gap.
Now, let’s talk business!
It probably won’t be the first time that you hear this but let’s say it anyway… the first step to charm a younger woman (or any woman for that matter) is to be yourself. Yes, being natural will always attract more women than playing a seduction game.
Also, don’t forget this: she may be younger than you but that doesn’t mean you should be patronising or just judge her based on her looks.
To start with, know that calm and composure are your best assets. Thus, forget about the fiery Latino stare and your usual pick-up lines. Generally speaking, it doesn’t attract many woman – no matter what others say.
However, a calm behaviour, composure and a certain social ease are by far more attractive. Usually, women prefer the chill guy that knows what his doing to the one that’s here to play with them …
Moreover, having a social status and/or a career can have an impact on younger women. For instance, if you want something a bit more serious, be subtle about it. However, if you are looking for some heavy petting…you can discreetly show off (a bit) – but avoid bragging!
If work wise there isn’t much to brag about, you’ll have two options: you can either be honest or avoid the subject. But yeah, you can also lie (not the best approach mind you)…it’s up to you.
So, to sum it up, it’s up to you to share what you want to share…
In conclusion, being natural (even awkward or clumsy) is often seen as sexy. Especially, if you project confidence most of the time!
And if you don’t, pretend!
The bigger the age difference, the more problems can arise from it.
Here’s a few things that can happen: a cultural/generational gap, a lack of energy & performance, the fear of what others may say and a really specific fear…will sexuality be any good?
However, a man of a certain age will generally reflect an image with more wisdom, virility and knowledge that can fascinate younger women. So, even if some things have changed over time, do not forget that you now possess qualities you didn’t have back then!
Moreover, science says that younger women usually prefer older men. (1)
Thus, if the things mentioned above are ever implied in a conversation, be open-minded and don’t hesitate to approach them with humour. After all, making fun of oneself is what makes British humour magnificent – so, make sure to do the same, should you need to.
Also, if your face appears a bit harsh, humour will show a lighter side of you – and that’s one hell of a charm asset!
If the relationship becomes more serious, be adventurous and surprise her. Organise fun activities: travelling (even locally), adrenaline pumped activities (paraglider, parachute jump, bungee jumping, karting, etc.). Indeed, you will have to show her…your wild side!
To charm a younger woman, you will have to show your leadership skills. The majority of women will be far more attracted to a man that knows what is doing, than not.
Consequently, take initiative and don’t let external feedback kill your natural self. To impress a woman, any woman, that’s essential.
In addition, show her that you can take decisions, while taking into account her own opinion. Now, if you can do that, you might win big!
Nevertheless, if you are naturally the alpha one, observe her reaction to it. If it’s too much, dampen your fire a bit. However, if she’s enjoying it, be proud of it!
Do not mistake dominance for control. Those are two very different things. And women heavily dislike being controlled – in any way.
Nowadays, chivalry – or gallantry – isn’t exactly on the spotlight. However, I firmly believe that many men and women appreciate it – and find it to be a real quality.
Like anything else, it’s all about personal preference. Some women will proudly show their independence and will be demonstrative about it – while others also appreciate a helping hand.
It’s up to you, to see what’s more adequate for her.
And when things get hot and sweaty…do not pressure her into it. Be respectful and thoughtful but don’t hesitate to take action if the moment is right.
You could start by inviting her for a diner at yours…who knows what the dessert could be!
(1) “Men’s and Women’s Youngest and Oldest Considered and Actual Sex Partners.” Antfolk, Jan. PsyArXiv, 29 Jan. 2018. Web.
Unlike women, we can’t necessarily go back at it straight way. So, how to ejaculate twice or more?
The truth is that we do need a bit of rest or time in order for the “machine” to function again. Actually, some of us can get back into it fast ,enough and others will have to wait longer. And then, for some unluckier dudes out there, they may have to wait a lot longer.
So, how can one get back to sexy times in no time?
If you are here, you are looking for sexual performance. However, to get there, you will have to understand how your body works (in layman terms, don’t worry) AND how you can boost it.
Now, let’s discover how to ejaculate twice or more…
Theory tells us that we can have sex – or make sweet love – all night and ejaculate in the morning, or whenever we want to. Thus, in theory, a fit man should be able to decide when he wants to let the juices out.
However, reality is a bitc*!
First, to have sex, there’s a minimum of two people needed. So, to start with, you will need someone who also enjoys a sexual challenge and has a bit (or a LOT) of stamina. Indeed, that’s not necessarily easily done. After all, a crazy night of non-stop sex might not be up to everyone taste!
Then, you have to take into account our own biology. Can a man really ejaculate twice or more without rest?
Like it was briefly mentioned before, not really. There will always be a standby period between one ejaculation and the following one. However, sometimes this latency doesn’t last long and sometimes, well juices don’t come back that easily.
This reality imposes on us a break. But, that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t do anything and patiently (erm, boredom) wait until another erection happens.
Moreover, physiologically speaking, once your sperm is out, it takes a while for your body to produce more. So, technically, you are already out of juice for a while. Therefore, the following ejaculations will be wicker and wicker. And in some cases, they can also be painful.
Do not get too inspired by pornography. Porn scenes are mainly shot during whole days and are edited to make it look like it happened continuously. So, no, that’s definitely not the case!
Generally, a partner (of a night or otherwise) doesn’t expect a marathon – it’s all about quality. Consequently, instead, focus on what both of you feel, the shared pleasure and imagine/research new sexual techniques to boost pleasure. In this way, the experience will be focused on true pleasure, rather than physical performance.
However, if you want to improve your physical endurance, there are things you can do to improve it. Let’s have a look…
So, now you know the existence of this necessary break time between ejaculations. However, that doesn’t mean that you can’t hold your ejaculation for a while longer to enjoy long and sweaty sex.
There are several techniques that can help you improve periods of latency and give you a boost a bit faster.
Post-orgasm tiredness is the result of the release of certain hormones. In this case, prolactin and oxytocin. The first one will provoke the wave of post-sex well-being and the second, favours attachment (and monogamy)! (1)
Nonetheless, the action of these hormones reduces libido, the production of dopamine and the effects of testosterone.
Consequently, a young man who has more testosterone, will have a shorter recuperation phase, because higher T levels can counteract the effects of prolactin and oxytocin. This is maths 101: the more testosterone you have, the longer you will last. However, ageing, especially after 30, is accompanied by a steady decline of T levels. Thus, those two hormones have a stronger hold. This explains the sexual difference between an 18 year old and a 48 year old man.
But this is not the end of it. You can boost your testosterone naturally and regardless of age!
All the advice aforementioned is part of a healthy lifestyle – a whole. To see a real improvement and ejaculate twice or more, you will need to implement them – step by step – so that they can become a part of your life, a routine.
(1) Fathers have lower salivary testosterone levels than unmarried men and married non-fathers in Beijing, China. Peter B Gray, Chi-Fu Jeffrey Yang, Harrison G Pope, Jr. Proc Biol Sci. 2006.
(2) Effects of oral intake of nitrates on reproductive functions of bulls. Zralý Z, Bendová J, Svecová D, Faldíková L, Vĕzník Z, Zajícová A.Vet Med (Praha). 1997.
Do you think that your relationship lacks romanticism and…sex? Maybe your wife doesn’t desire you as much anymore and she doesn’t want to make love? Or maybe, you just don’t know what to do? Whatever the reason may be, we can help you make your wife horny for you again.
Thus, the following advice will help you get there, to make your wife horny and most importantly, improve your relationship.
If your daily life has become dull, breaking out the routine is key. For instance, to hint a possible change, you will need to act.
Consequently, by changing a few key things, you will improve your success with your wife.
Firstly, it all starts with appearance – whether we want it or not. By taking care of your appearance (both outside and inside), you will become more attractive. (1)
So, start by improving your style (ditch the jogging, t-shirt and your old pair of jeans). Instead, get out a pair of classy trousers (in cotton or linen for a more laid-back style or… if it’s hot) and a nice shirt (in doubt, choose a solid colour). Moreover, avoid bright colours and opt for a pair of trousers that matches your shirt (if you need more advice, google it).
Also, should you need it, go to the hairdresser and/or barber to clean up your face. Don’t forget, that’s not only for your wife, that’s also for you!
Last but not least, perfume is incredibly important. Indeed, a nice subtle smell can have an incredible power of attraction. However, it has to be subtle. Therefore, forget spraying half a can of deodorant. Instead, go for a perfume or eau de toilette with a nice woody or musky smell (1 or 2 sprays are more than enough).
Appearance is one thing but behaviour is has important, if not more.
If your wife is used to a calm and composed you, try being a bit more out there. Otherwise, be a bit more reserved and cool.
By changing (a bit) your interactions, you will surprise your wife and you may be able to put a bit of spice in your relationship.
As a matter of fact, what’s most important is to be yourself – basically, let your hidden parts shine through a bit more. This is not about role play.
If there’s something most women need from a man, is sensuality. Indeed, physical touch, caresses, tenderness and sweet kisses are essential to maintain a women’s interest.
For instance, if you tend to go all in without any foreplay, usually it won’t be pleasurable for your other half. So, instead, take your time and share some sensuality…together.
You can start by caressing and kissing her neck. Then, slightly bite her ear (playfully) and explore the rest of her body with your hands. By doing so, you are showing her that you love her body and trust me, she will notice.
Also, there’s nothing like some well dosed sensuality to make the temperature rise!
Yes, it seems obvious, timing is everything. Most of the time, women’s libido is pretty high. However, sometimes is just not the right moment.
For example, if your wife is stressed, tired, sad or ill, don’t push yourself on her. If it feels like she wants to rest or do something else, let her. If you don’t, you could annoy her or worse, anger her.
So, choose the ideal moment. Sometimes, to find it, you just need to communicate openly. Tell her that you still love her and that you feel desire for her – if it’s the right time, she will let you know…
In addition, sometimes, the control of one’s own impulsions can help oneself to grow in life…and in bed. (2)
Women need us to be interested in them – even when it comes to the menial things.
Of course, if you don’t ask her how she’s feeling and what she’s been up to, she will feel neglected. Moreover, she will find it difficult to have intimate contact.
So, if you haven’t been there emotionally, it’s time to improve your communications skills. Be there when she needs you.
For instance, if she has too many things to deal with, give her hand with some of it.
Or, maybe she needs emotional support. In this case, reassure her, try finding solutions together or find a nice place to take her mind off her worries.
By doing what I just mentioned regularly, you will show her how much you care. However, this doesn’t guarantee sex but, it will show her that you are a reliable partner. Consequently, someone that she can count on. And that’s crucial to make your wife horny in the first place!
Let’s revisit the definition of romanticism first!
Romanticism doesn’t necessarily mean showering your loved one with flowers, chocolates or inviting her to a fancy diner.
Being romantic is an act of generosity (it doesn’t have to involve money) that translates your affection to your partner. This act solely depends of you, your personality and more importantly, your wife’s. After all, she’s the one you are trying to impress.
For example, if you live near the countryside, a natural park, the ocean or a lake, go for a walk, a camping trip or a hike! Don’t forget to get some water, food and adequate clothing though. 😉
Otherwise, you could organize a cinema night at home. Get her favourite movie, prepare some lovely home-made snacks, a nice bottle of wine or an infusion, get some candles out – and here you go, a glorious recipe for a cosy romantic night.
So, it’s up to you to imagine what she would enjoy and by doing the effort, you will show her how much you care. And that’s worth a thousand words!
So to make your wife horny, you’ve got to make your wife happy …with you.
Sometimes, you just need to get out of your routine to reinforce your relationship. So, be innovative, a little crazy and brave!
Also, take care of yourself, improve your diet, exercise regularly, lose your extra weight and if needed, go see a therapist.
After all, those are qualities that also attract us so, it seems logical to cultivate them in us…
(1) Implicit and explicit preferences for physical attractiveness in a romantic partner: a double dissociation in predictive validity. Eastwick PW, Eagly AH, Finkel EJ, Johnson SE. J Pers Soc Psychol. 2011.
(2) Everyday temptations: an experience sampling study of desire, conflict, and self-control. Hofmann W, Baumeister RF, Förster G, Vohs KD. J Pers Soc Psychol. 2012.
Many of us have experienced disappointments when it comes to love and sometimes, we can doubt the stability of our current relationship. So, instead of waiting for a disaster, it’s always better to figure out what’s wrong. For instance, if you wonder if your partner is unfaithful… there are things you can do and others, you can’t.
Discover what’s what with our help.
Several things can tell you, if your relationship is going well or not. Afterwards, it will be up to you, to figure out whether or not, you want to continue.
If you feel something is wrong, it may be the case. However, sometimes, your suspicions could be the result of your own insecurity. Therefore, before looking for signs, ask yourself if the different behaviour isn’t the result of something else.
In other words, talk with your other half before going down the following path.
Although, if the conversation lacks honesty, feel free to follow our advice. But, it’s crucial not to step certain boundaries – the ones that could break your relationship forever. Because, at the end of the day, if your partner isn’t unfaithful…well, you get it.
Often, it’s more obvious to discover a man cheating on his woman. In this case, women tend to be far more discreet.
So, be attentive and importantly, analyse your current relationship. For example, are you a happy couple? Have you taken the route of complacency and routine? Have you turned a blind eye on your current status?
Indeed, complacency can push a person to become unfaithful. In other words, to start with, be honest with yourself. (1)
As a matter of fact, to confirm your suspicions, the best way is through observation and communication.
Indeed, observe if her routine is different and be curious about the why. However, even if any change is a sign, it doesn’t necessarily mean your partner is unfaithful – if anything, it also could be something positive.
For example, if your partner asks you about your work schedule or when will you be home, it could mean that she’s planning something.
To know if she’s genuinely curious or not, you could come home a bit earlier than planned. Consequently, you will be able to observe her reaction.
If your wife/partner often rejects the fault on you and complains non-stop, there’s an issue. Nonetheless, be aware that your own attitude could be the cause of it. Thus, it’s essential to question yourself, when necessary. (2)
However, if she’s using a blaming tactic to justify her acts, it could be because of an actual betrayal.
So, if you don’t think you are to blame and have questioned yourself thoroughly, continue searching for the truth.
Do you remember the beginning of your relationship, I would imagine that both of you were really taking care of your appearance.
And it’s normal, at the beginning of a relationship or courtship, we want to be liked and be seductive. In consequence, we dress well and sweat more in the gym. However, over time, we tend to do less when it comes to appearance and that’s okay (as long as we don’t entirely forget to take care of ourselves).
So, if your partner has been taking care of herself more than usual. For instance, she wears more make up or dresses up more often (when she’s not going out with you). Or, she spends an extra eternity in the bathroom…
…she could be hiding something but… not necessarily cheating though.
The interest of your other half for your schedule can hide something. Similarly, a lack of time for you can also be suspicious.
Let’s illustrate this: for a while now, your partner refuses your invitations to go out, she finds excuses to avoid sleeping or spending time with you. Infidelity or not, be aware that your relationship is in grave danger!
So, once again, be observant, ask questions and ideally, ask her and yourself (with subtlety) the following. Why aren’t you as available? Have you argued lately? Maybe, she isn’t sharing her emotions much any more?
By asking yourself and her directly such questions, you might be able to shed some light onto the current situation.
To know is your partner is unfaithful, observation and communication are key methods.
However, sometimes, we can be tempted to go further. But, if your suspicions are not substantiated, you could destroy your relationship…forever.
Consequently, ALWAYS control your impulses and if you can’t, get out, exercise or/and meet with a relative/friend. Moreover, do not follow your partner, do not look into her things or phone, and do not interrogate her friends and family. By avoiding all of that, not only will you protect your integrity but in the best scenario, your relationship too.
Furthermore, avoid ANY kind of violence, psychological or physical. Indeed, don’t forget that physical violence is punishable by law and so is harassment.
Additionally, other signs can help you figure out if your partner is unfaithful: no more common hobbies, a mysterious new friend, very little to no sex, an unknown perfume, she doesn’t want to kiss you or does it reluctantly, she’s found a new passion, etc.
Generally, if most of these signs are happening, there’s a big chance that your suspicions are real.
Therefore, if you really think that your partner is unfaithful, ask her or ask her again. Moreover, ask her at the right time – meaning, when there’s no work, appointments or any other planed event.
Be brave my friend, hopefully, it’s nothing bad.
(1) Attachment Insecurity and Infidelity in Marriage: Do Studies of Dating Relationships Really Inform Us about Marriage? V. Michelle Russell, Levi R. Baker, and James K. McNulty. J Fam Psychol. 2013.
(2) A Sociology of Treason : The Construction of Weakness. Vasilis Galis, Francis Lee. Sage Journal. 2013.
Being relaxed during intercourse, isn’t necessarily a skill shared by all. For instance, it could be linked to a lack of experience, low self-esteem, performance anxiety, physical insecurity or generalized stress. So, in any case, how to reduce stress during sex to be able to enjoy it 100%?
Are you anxious and can’t be yourself before or during sexual intercourse? Know that you are not an isolated case, it happens to many of us. When the mind isn’t at 100% and the body shuts down, it’s understandable to struggle to have satisfying sex.
However, it’s possible to deal with whatever is causing the blockage and consequently, getting rid of it. So, for everything related to emotions, more often than not, the solution is to face one’s fears. Indeed, sex is after all, an act of physical abandonment and release. During sexual intercourse, each side gives itself to the other. Thus, it makes sense that the problem needs to be treated at the root – in order to be able to thrive in life AND sexually.
Moreover, you should know that chronic stress or extreme stress can break havoc in our bodies. Actually, after a prolonged period of stress, our bodies secrete an hormone, cortisol. However, high levels of cortisol can be incredibly damaging. Cortisol can weaken the immune system, trigger auto-immune diseases and worsen mental diseases.
There are two main sexual blockages:
Inhibition: This sexual blockage is common in sexually inexperienced people. For instance, in shy people or introverts who sometimes struggle to deal with their emotions. Generally, the reasons leading to inhibition are fear of rejection or of being judged. Also, people who have been physically abused are susceptible to have this blockage during sex.
Performance Anxiety: This crippling anxiety is incredibly common and is often, the result of what is seen in the media. Especially, the image of sex shown in pornography. However, this representation of sex devoid of any sensuality and often, of respect, is NOT a representation of real sex.
In addition, many sufferers of performance anxiety are often scared of not being able to have good enough erections or of not being able to make their partners climax. (1)
So, anxious people are focused on performance and their fear of not being able to perform satisfyingly. Whereas inhibited people a scared of their emotions and avoid spontaneity.
Multiple studies have shown that ¼ of anxious men suffer from erectile dysfunction (ED). Indeed, the issue is incredibly common and stress is usually the culprit!
So, if you suffer from ED and anxiety, it’s very likely that the latter is causing your erectile dysfunction. However, to deal with the anxiety, I highly recommend consulting a sexologist or a therapist.
Periods of stress will usually destroy libido. Indeed, when the brain is overloaded, it’s normal to lose any sexual desire. Moreover, a sudden anxiety or a strong stress can have the same results. However, should it last too long, it will be necessary to take the appropriate measures to treat it. If it’s temporary, don’t worry, it’s normal.
Now, you know that anxiety can be dealt with. Moreover, a study has demonstrated that erectile dysfunction caused by stress and anxiety can be dealt with psychology far more successfully than medicine. (2)
The following tips will help you reduce and eventually, conquer stress during sex. In order to have a fun sexual life without any second thoughts.
Before treating your body, treat your brain. Indeed, the brain is the first sexual organ and if it’s saturated with anxiety or negative thoughts, it can’t even begin to process sexual pleasure. And, in some cases, you won’t be able to get a hard on.
Thus, to reduce stress, you will need to learn to disconnect and free your emotions and sexual impulses.
Be tolerant and rationalize the useless pressure you put on yourself. Also, accept desire and tenderness. In other words, be open to real intimacy.
After letting go, you will be able to listen to your body and desires with hightened senses. Thus, let your instinctive and animal side rule, while leaving 1/10th of your brain on (to communicate and be respectful).
If your partner isn’t happy about what you are doing, stop and do something you both enjoy. Also, if you want to try something new, don’t be afraid to ask if she’s up for it beforehand.
Also, if your partner does something you don’t enjoy, let her know. Communication is essential to really satisfy both persons involved during sexual intercourse.
In addition, if you are to stressed, talk about it. Share anxiety, especially, if it’s linked to something specific. For instance, the mere fact of talking about a fear can relieve or even dissipate anxiety.
In order to relax the mood, sometimes a touch of originality and humour are what’s needed. For example, if you are up for it, you can role play or try some sexual gadgets. Also, you can have a fit of laughter over something silly, admit your craziest fantasies, etc.
If you need more ideas, check the corners of Internet – there are many ways to spice up your sexual life!
In conclusion, and this is one of the most important things, it’s crucial to take care of stress long term. To do so, you will need to take care of yourself inside out.
Start taming your body and mind with hobbies that you enjoy. Moreover, you can try yoga, meditation, acting, massage, sophrology, high-intensity exercise, painting or learning a musical instrument – anything that takes your fancy and helps you deal with stress healthily.
No matter what, do things that work for you and that truly make you feel good!
After how to reduce stress during sex…Discover how to stop masturbation with 10 proven methods.
(1) The role of performance anxiety in the development and maintenance of sexual dysfunction in men and women. McCabe. International Journal of Stress Management. 2005.
(2) Stress management and erectile dysfunction: a pilot comparative study. Kalaitzidou I, Venetikou MS, Konstadinidis K, Artemiadis AK, Chrousos G, Darviri C. Andrologia. 2014.
Unfortunately, infidelity is a reality that has been experienced by many of us (and women aren’t immune either – 25% of married men are unfaithful and 20% of married women are too). However, past the initial shock when faced with a horrible truth, it’s crucial to know how to react when your wife has been unfaithful. (1)
There’s no smoke without fire. When it comes to infidelity, it is usually true that the person who’s been unfaithful will often think about it for a while and in a moment of weakness (or not) the will succumb to temptation. However, with or without premeditation, infidelity is generally caused by an unstable and/or unhealthy relationship.
So, maybe you saw early warning signs? For example, your wife shared what was in her heart and her questions about the future, and you didn’t pay attention?
It can happen. However, you ought to know that women will share these emotional things and if they do so, it’s because they need to. Admittedly, it’s much harder for us to do the same. But it’s not impossible, like any skill, it can be learned.
Because if your wife doesn’t feel valued or heard, there is a very real risk that she will emotional disconnect from you. Thus, there’s a higher risk of infidelity.
In the future, be patient, listen and be observant to see if any changes of behavior or personality occur. Especially, if she becomes distant with you. When you see it, you can talk about it before it gets worse. However, if you don’t, you will need to work on your observational and listening skills.
Usually, the first reaction when faced with infidelity is anger and/or sorrow. And that’s normal, after all, someone you love and trust betrayed you. However, even if the pain seems overwhelming right now, know this, eventually it will get easier and you will have to confront reality.
Reality is never simple. Indeed, if your wife cheated on you, there must be reasons that lead to it. These reasons can be her own, from someone out of your relationship or linked to your relationship.
For instance, in a nightmarish scenario, your wife fell in love with another man. Moreover, if she has developed deep feeling for another person, it will be incredibly hard to overcome this new reality. More so, if the cheating has been going on for a while.
However, if the reason was purely sexual or came out from frustration, the damage done isn’t as devastating (still is, I know) and the possibility of rebuilding the relationship is way more probable.
Generally, infidelity is the result of a lack of something – it could be: a lack of novelty, of desire, of attraction, of charm, of excitation, of unknown, etc. These things need to be cultivated in a relationship to ensure a solid foundation.
Actually, if the lack of something is real, infidelity becomes more understandable. However, I didn’t say forgivable, that is up to you and no one but you can make that leap.
After communication and establishing facts on both sides, a choice will have to be made. Let’s not be afraid of words, infidelity is heartbreaking and will tear your soul apart. Especially, if you didn’t suspect it.
However, when dealing with uncontrollable feelings, you will need to control your anger. Indeed, mental or physical violence is the WORSE reaction one can have. Moreover, it’s punishable by law. So, to avoid breaking your relationship forever, avoid violent words or acts.
Faced with the facts, you will need to keep as cool as possible and if you can’t, get out, go to the gym or go meet a friend or a relative. Also, when applicable, you will have to understand what has lead your wife to be unfaithful. Consequently, if her explanations are satisfying, you will have the possibility to rebuilt what has been destroyed. If that’s not possible, you will have behaved like a grown-up and you will continue to grow as a result.
No matter what, you won’t have to ask yourself how to react when your wife has been unfaithful – you will be able to. If you lose your shit, get out and find support before doing something unforgivable.
Infidelity is one of the most soul breaking things that can happen but you can heal.
However, there’s no coming back from violence. Once, it’s done, no one can’t take it back.
I hope that this article will help you figure out how to react when your wife has been unfaithful. However, nothing replaces intuition and I can assure you that it isn’t just a women thing. So, if you truly believe that your relationship can be rebuilt, try to. But if your other half isn’t ready to deal with a future with you, do not bother.
I wish you strength and also, do not forget, the pain won’t last forever!
(1) Attachment Insecurity and Infidelity in Marriage: Do Studies of Dating Relationships Really Inform Us about Marriage? V. Michelle Russell, Levi R. Baker, and James K. McNulty. J Fam Psychol. 2013.
Often, erectile troubles are still seen as taboo in our society. However, slowly but surely, things are changing and today, we have access to educative material to deal with the issue. So, there is no reason to be afraid, in all likelihood, you can improve your issue. After all, what would life be without sex. Let’s go back to the subject at hand… So, can medications cause erectile dysfunction?
If so, that would be on nasty side effect.
Surely, a drug should only treat a specific issue. However, sometimes, they do interfere with sexual health and fertility, and that’s a real problem.
So, if you take pills to treat your health issues, I highly recommend you to read the following!
If you have noticed that the quality of your erections has reduced, over time or suddenly, you should read the leaflet(s) of your medication(s) as soon as possible. Indeed, many drugs CAN cause erectile dysfunction.
Often, you can read on them something similar to this: “this type of drug is susceptible to lead to a loss of libido, erectile dysfunction or impotency”.
Consequently, it’s of the utmost importance to read your leaflets. Ideally, before starting a new medication.
If your medication or medications are causing your erectile dysfunction – or ED – you will have to be extremely careful. Especially, if you can’t stop your medication suddenly because for some, that’s simply way too dangerous.
Your medication has been prescribed by a doctor for a good reason. For instance, if you suffer from high blood pressure, by stopping your drug, you could dangerously raise your already precarious blood pressure. Therefore, being prudent is essential. Instead of going for the risky solution, get an appointment with your doctor and explain the situation. Afterwards, your doc will be able to prescribe you another medicine that is as efficient BUT devoid of the terrible side effect.
In some cases, your doctor may not be willing to stop the medication causing ED. If that’s the case, it’s up to you to decide whether you want to continue or not. However, KNOW that your condition could dramatically worsen. This is not a decision that should be taken lightly. Consequently, do not jeopardise your health for sexy times, that would be silly, right?
According to the latest statistics, one man out of five suffers from ED. Moreover, as I previously said, medications are usually the culprit. Among them, you will find that antidepressants can interfere with testosterone levels and blood pressure reducing medicine can cause ED.
To help you figure out if your medications can cause ED, read the following (but don’t forget to read your leaflet too, this list is not exhaustive):
Groups of Drugs
Ramipril, Captopril, Enalapril, Fosinopril, Lisinopril
Water Retention (Diuretic)
Atenolol, Bisoprolol, Carvedilol, Nebivolol, Pindolol, Propranolol, Metoprolol
Calcium Channel Blockers
Amlodipine, Verapamil, Diltiazem
Serotonin and Norepinephrine re-uptake inhibitors (SNRI)
Selective serotonin re-uptake inhibitors (SSRIs)
Amitriptylin, Amitriptylinoxide, Clomipramin, Desipramin, Doxepin, Imipramin, Nortriptylin
Diclofenac, Acemetacin, Indometacin, acetylsalicylic acid
Bezafibrate, Fenofibrate, Gemfibrozil
CSE inhibitors (statins)
Simvastatin, Fluvastatin, Cerivastatin, Atorvastatin, Pravastatin, Rosuvastatin
Anxiety, Epilepsy, Parkinson’s disease
Acemetacin, acetylsalicylique acid, Diclofenac, Indometacin
Non-steroidal anti-inflammatory drugs (NSAIDs)
Ibuprofen, Diclofenac, Naproxene
Sometimes, men suffering from impotence that also take anti-hypertensive drugs are the ideal candidates for erectile dysfunction.
For the ones suffering from a cardiovascular disease, beta-blockers can diminish blood flow towards the penis and thus, this will create erectile issues. (1)
Anti-arrhythmic agents (heart rate regulators) and medication like Digoxin can also favour erectile dysfunction.
Furthermore, diuretics (often prescribed for those suffering from a cardiovascular disease) can cause impotence.
Often, drugs used to treat psychological problems can cause ED. For instance, tricyclic antidepressants, lithium, MAO inhibitors and SSRIs are known to cause ED.
Although, we still don’t understand exactly why – the best theory so far would be a modification of brain neurotransmitters.
Moreover, neuroleptics, anxiolytics and anorectics can also cause ED.
IMPORTANT: Some medications are essential to maintain mental health. Consequently, it’s indispensable to consult your doctor before changing your current treatment.
Hypercholesterolemia agents used to regulate cholesterol can also lead to impotence. The culprits are statins, they reduce cholesterol AND testosterone levels – a disaster in the making. Moreover, the benefits of statins are still up for debate. For most, a radical diet and lifestyle change could be far more beneficial. (2)
In most cases, medications aren’t the only cause of impotence, lifestyle also plays a major role. So, take responsibility for your own health, if you wish to see improvements in your sexual life.
For instance, start by improving your diet and exercising regularly. Small steps and routine are the keywords that will lead you to success.
(1) Nitric oxide, erectile dysfunction and beta-blocker treatment (MR NOED study): benefit of nebivolol versus metoprolol in hypertensive men. Brixius K, Middeke M, Lichtenthal A, Jahn E, Schwinger RH. Clin Exp Pharmacol Physiol. 2007.
(2) The effect of statin therapy on testosterone levels in subjects consulting for erectile dysfunction. Corona G, Boddi V, Balercia G, Rastrelli G, De Vita G, Sforza A, Forti G, Mannucci E, Maggi M. J Sex Med. 2010.
Masturbation is the universal link that connects all men. Also, it’s during our teenagers that we learned what our noodle enjoyed. However, regular pleasuring is sometimes just a step away from regular…addiction. Therefore, if your masturbating habit has become less than enjoyable and borderline obsessive, if not full blown – and your sexual life is difficult or nonexistent – or you would like to stop masturbating for religious, spiritual or physical reasons…Discover how to stop masturbating with 10 proven methods…
If you are wanking because you just don’t know what to do – it’s time to find some new hobbies!
Try some activities that you are curious about and stick with the ones you truly enjoy. In this way, you will be able to replace idleness with something far more interesting than a “why not” wank.
There are many things out there to do, some free, some not, you could give a try to: writing, learning an instrument (YouTube is your friend…), painting, drawing, soccer, basketball, tennis, martial arts, weight lifting, running or maybe, a new skill?
To do so, research what are the courses available in your local area or alternatively, opt for an online course (many are free)!
If you exercise regularly and your diet is on point, you will have incorporated in your lifestyle a good amount of discipline. Discipline is key to resist when “the need” arises.
So, step by step, implement small changes to improve your discipline and create a healthier routine.
If you are masturbating often because you feel lonely, know that there are ways to limit loneliness.
For instance, you could join a video-game, board game, coding, sport or manual activity club to stop masturbating.
Also, when your friends invite you to do something, go for it. Even if you would rather stay at home. By going out more often, you are bound to meet new people.
Moreover, you could try online dating. Nearly all of us have done it at some point and more often than not, you will meet, at least, one interesting person!
When it comes to recreational masturbation, porn is the MAIN enemy. It’s hard to resit the temptation when your fantasies are just a few clicks away. Therefore, the only solution is the most radical one, if your porn makes you automatically go down on it…you will have to STOP. To help you stop masturbating, you will have to stop porn. Really!
What do I mean? Well, if you don’t get enough tough love, you will have to give it to yourself.
I am talking about is discipline, again. For example, one thing that helps a lot of people, is to start the day writing a to do list. Write the most important things first. Then, start by doing all the small tasks and focus on the bigger ones after that. Also, make sure to cross everything, that’s THE ultimate satisfaction. It will give you a better sense of accomplishment.
When you are twiddling with your thumbs, look at your to do list!
Blackmailing sucks. Period. However, blackmailing yourself can be useful. It can allow you to improve and stay on the straight and narrow.
For instance, gift yourself a nice meal or a video game after a solid two weeks without any wanking. You deserve it!
However, avoid gifting yourself something that has any sort of sexual connotation or by…masturbating yourself. That would be quite counter-intuitive and ineffective long term. Moreover, it could make your addiction to wanking worse!
If you have tried everything or nearly, be open to an external opinion. Put shame aside and think about your future. Asking for help is a brave act and most people will see it as such – whether you are asking it from a religious person or a medical professional.
In addition, don’t hesitate to ask for a second opinion, religious representatives and medical professionals are not all-knowing or all-wise. Like us, they can make mistakes, they are human. Especially, if the advice given doesn’t sound right for you.
Eating seems to be an essential part of being alive – right? As important as breathing or drinking.
However, our bodies can survive for several WEEKS without food. I wouldn’t recommend a fast longer than a week without medical supervision.
Instead, you could try intermittent fasting – or IF. With IF you can eat for a certain window of time and “fast” for the rest. For example, you can eat for 8 hours between noon and 8pm, and fast until noon the following day. You can have a shorter period of time and you can adjust the window to match your own preferences. (1)
Fasting is great to distract you from sexual desires and it will allow you to reflect on the nature of your desire in order to eventually, learn to control it.
When you stop masturbating, you will:
After all, it would be hard to remember all of these methods without checking them out every now and then. Please do yourself a favor and re-read this article to stay on track. Especially, when temptation is lurking everywhere.
Feel free to leave us a comment if you have a question or need help to help you stop masturbating. Also, you can find “no fap” communities all over Internet to give you a little extra motivation!
(1) Chronic Intermittent Fasting Improves Cognitive Functions and Brain Structures in Mice. Liaoliao Li, Zhi Wang, Zhiyi Zuo. PLOS. 2013.
(2) Influence of ejaculation frequency on seminal parameters. B. Jose Manuel Mayorga-Torres, Mauricio Camargo, Ashok Agarwal, Stefan S. du Plessis, Ángela P. Cadavid, and Walter D. Cardona Maya. Reprod Biol Endocrinol. 2015.
If you enjoy impressing your other half or your one night stand with amazing loads, this article is for you. Discover how to increase ejaculate force and load with our tested and efficient advice.
Often, my friends ask me if it’s even possible. To which I promptly answer: “Yes but you won’t find much information about it. It’s not considered disabling whatsoever”. Therefore, it’s about time, we need to write a bit more about the matter.
There is nothing wrong with wanting bigger loads, after all it’s just another virility sign. However, with testosterone levels in free fall all around the world, it’s not surprising to see our ejaculations loads getting smaller.
And that’s the real problem.
Let’s have look at the different ways the we can use to increase ejaculate force and load
To increase ejaculate force and load, often, you just need to improve your lifestyle. For instance, by improving your diet and exercise routine, you should be able to observe a significant difference over time. Moreover, by learning how to deal with stress better, improving your sleeping patterns and ensuring you sleep enough, you can only improve what happens when it all comes out!
Sometimes, the magic recipe is obvious and in this case it is, it all starts by a healthy lifestyle.
If you are overweight or obese, it’s crucial to lose some weight to boost your testosterone levels and ejaculations. Start by reducing your daily calorific intake (eat less). For example, you could try intermittent fasting (IF) to eat less. Try eating for a window of 8 hours daily and fast for the remaining 16 hours (during Zzz time).
Also, you will find many apps that can help you track your calories and your macros (quantity of lipids, protein and carbs that you need to consume daily).
Exercise regularly. How can you do that when you’re not used to it? First, choose something that really appeals to you and try different activities, to make sure you truly like it. Moreover, stick to a routine, go to your gym or do your exercise at the same time and the same days, to install a routine.
Ideally, you will need to exercise 3 to 6 times per week and mix cardio and resistance training (weight lifting is brilliant to boost your testosterone levels).
If you don’t have much time, opt for a HIIT routine (research it), it allows you to get a good cardio session in about 15/20 minutes instead of 45 min/1 hour.
Avoid industrial and fast food, they are full of trans fats, additives, sugar and other nefarious stuff. Learn to cook simple meals and food prep during the week-end. Especially, if you haven’t got much time to cook daily.
Limit your alcohol intake to improve your testosterone levels. (1)
Drink enough water daily. Dehydration is terrible for your health and sexual health. Drink at least 2 liters of water daily and up your intake when you are exercising or when it’s hot.
Avoid products packaged in plastic as much as possible. Also, choose hygiene products devoid of parabens, PPT and BPA. All of this components can mess with your hormones and boost your feminine ones.
Masturbation reduces the amount of sperm in your testes. So, if you wank regularly, you just need to do it less often, to boost your load when you are having intercourse … with the partner you are trying to impress!
If you are having a lot of sexy times in a short amount of time, try to refrain from ejaculating at first. (Kegel exercises can help, I will mention them below).
I strongly recommend zinc and folic acid supplements.
Zinc is an essential trace element that contributes to various factors linked to cellular metabolism. Moreover, associated with folic acid, it will increase ejaculations loads up to 74%, as seen in a study with men with fertility troubles. (2)
For optimal results, take 5mg of folic acid and 66mg of zinc sulfate.
Important: If you take any medication and/or already have a healthy diet, ask your doctor if it’s really useful in your case.
Your little testes swimmers hate heat. Indeed, they really do – if the temperature of your testes is higher than 37°C (98°F), your fertility and the quantity of sperm will be hindered. Incidentally, our bodies are clearly the result of brilliant engineering since, our testes are out of our bodies.
On a practical level, avoid sitting for prolonged extended periods (gor for a small walk every hour) or in a car exposed to sunshine (cover your bits with something white), in the sauna or a bath for too long.
Additionally, tight underwear can also increase the temperature of your scrotum and testes. Consequently, it will eventually diminish sperm quantity and sperm count. Also, slim or tight jeans are not advised.
Kegel exercises are targeted exercises that will boost your pelvic muscles (the ones you use to pee and to have gorgeous erections).
By improving the strength of your pelvic and perineal muscles, you will improve your prostate health, reduce the risk of precocious ejaculations and in the long term, you will be able to control your ejaculations and improve the quality of your orgasms!
To conclude, there are many things one can do to increase ejaculate force and load! By following the advice mentioned above, you should see an improvement in a month or two. However, to keep the benefits, you will have to keep the good lifestyle! No pain, no gain! 😉 I’m half kidding, you will enjoy it and it will definitely be worth it. Truly.
(1) Ethanol inhibits testosterone biosynthesis by direct action on Leydig cells. Ellingboe J, Varanelli CC. Res Commun Chem Pathol Pharmacol. 1979.
(2) Effects of folic acid and zinc sulfate on male factor subfertility: a double-blind, randomized, placebo-controlled trial. Wong WY, Merkus HM, Thomas CM, Menkveld R, Zielhuis GA, Steegers-Theunissen RP. Fertil Steril. 2002.