My Libido Story
I’m only in my thirties. You may think that’s a bit young to be the expert on how to increase libido and deal with sex drive problems.
But no, actually I’m not too young at all. Like I say, anyone can suffer from a sex drive crisis and at any age. What’s important is for you is to understand how and why this happens.
Certainly, a weak libido is more common as we age both with men and women. The male menopause can hit men very hard in their forties or fifities and the female menopause can lead to big life changes for the ladies.
But what many of us don’t know is that this can also happen to anyone, at any time.
As for what happened to me, it’s a funny story and I’m sure I’m not the only one it’s happened to.
I was a reserved teenager but I went a bit crazy in my twenties. I would drink a lot, smoke marijuana at least 3 times a week and often combine it with alcohol.
And although I had a good career, kept fit and strong and I was never overweight, this didn’t help me avoid what happened next.
Prostatitis and a low sex drive..arrrggh!
What happened was that I started to get pains in my prostate and had very low testosorone levels. I felt weak, lacked motivation and this problem depressed me. It hurt when I went to pee, I couldn’t keep my erection for long and I felt like I was suffering from a premature low sex drive problem. I wasn’t even 30 years old and was already washed up like an alcoholic old man!
I think what had sabotaged my sex drive was having sex when high from marijuana on countless occasions. This, together with drinking too much and also taking ecstasy on occasions had taken its toll on my body.
You see, I’d done some damage to my nervous system. Not permanent damage, but I’d certainly caused it to lose its balance and in the process, I’d lost my sex drive.
Yet, I’m not sure that smoking weed and drinking was the only cause at all. I, like most people, ate food with chemicals in it every single day. I didn’t care about this at the time, because I thought I was invincible. So now when I think about it, diet too could well have been was one of the additional reasons that caused this disruption to my sexual functions, even though I was relatively fit.
What did the doctor say?
The doctor gave me 6 weeks of antibiotics to clear out a prostate infection. 6 weeks! The thing is, he kept prescribing more each time I told him the problem hadn’t gone away completely. After a few weeks and some research, it became clear that the poor guy didn’t know much about this kind of issue.
I saw another doctor who gave me some saw palmetto but that was it. And saw palmetto on its own didn’t do anything for me. It may have helped a bit but it did nothing to address the problem. Reading about others’ experiences on Internet forums made me realise that no doctors in the Western world seemed to know much about why this occurred, or how to correctly diagnose it.
That’s when I realised I had to find a solution for myself. We were going through lay offs at work which took several months so I was getting paid but had no work to do at the office and plenty of time to research.
I proceeded to try out different health supplements, one at a time. I became an expert on the male libido and on the remedies that worked well and those that didn’t.
Finally, after over about one year and a bit, I got the balance right. My body was clean again, my liver functioning well and my libido was fully restored.
Libido Crisis Part 2
So of course, I researched her problems extensively and learnt plenty about the female libido too in the process.
Then, shortly after that my long term girlfriend left me. This was nothing to do with my libido problems. In fact, her low sex drive had been causing tension that had been going unresolved between us since some time.
This unexpectedly blew up in my face and caused a lot of distress. I lost some weight and had to try really hard to stay positive. It was a very tough time.
After a while, I started seeing new girls again. But I had a new problem: my confidence had been shattered by my break up and now I had premature ejaculation! Can you imagine anything worse? This was awful, and the most embarrassing thing ever. I’d never had this before. And yet, I felt that it all came from my mind, not my body.
And the libido strikes back
Around this time, I met a great girl who was more patient with me for the first few times we had sex. This helped my confidence come back and within just a few weeks and some practicing of sexual confidence techniques, trying out more, easily found natural supplements and herbs, I was rocking again. After another couple of months, I was giving regular orgasms and sometimes multiples to this girl. Everything was great again.
Since that, libido maintenance has always fascinated me. I enjoy understanding how the body works and more importantly, I consider it a priority to have good sex and to pleasure my girlfriend as much as possible. I never want to be unable to give my girlfriend (or future wife) multiple orgasms again. That is just inconceivable for me.
Gradually, I’ve learned more about how we should limit alcohol consumption, optimise our diets for libido health and stay fit for maintaining a very high sex drive. And yes, it’s possible for anyone.
Now, some years after, my libido is as perky as ever. I’m even glad for that crisis I had a few years back as it helped me learn everything I needed to pursue a perfect libido lifestyle. I feel full of energy, confident and I have a great girlfriend who enjoys sex.
Remember The Rain Man
I did give myself a rule when searching for solutions: never take any prescription medication for erectile dysfunction. I wanted to find only natural remedies and cures to restore my libido back to health. This was the challenge.
If ever you get confused, just remember Dustin Hoffman in Rain Man: “Are you taking any prescription medication”. The answer should always be NO! Screw the pharamceutical companies who manipulate our healthcare. Find the natural solution yourself and find one that doesn’t have side effects on your body.
Why? For me, the blue pills made by pharmaceutical giants are a fake solution. After the effect wears off, you’re back to being the low libido man again. And you need them every time you have sex. Who in their right mind really wants that?
Ok, so if I was Hugh Hefner, at nearly 80 years old and with those big boobied bunnies around me, then…Actually, you know what, I still wouldn’t touch it.
I worked to find the root of my problem and I’m glad to say, I got there and found all the solutions I needed I’ll pursue the healthy libido lifestyle until my last days.
This is my way of helping those of you that are in the same situation as me a few years ago.
I sincerely hope to help you with what I share here.
I created a full 10 step program in order to do so. Go here to find out more about the program.